Quick Note On Comments

The first time you comment here, the comment is held for moderation. Most weekdays, I only get to check for such early in the morning, so the fact that your comment doesn’t show immediately should not be a cause for concern. Once you are approved, you are automatically whitelisted and future comments will appear immediately.

An Ode To A Troll

Yesterday, I came home to find a comment on a COVID-19 post that I thought I would share:

“Yesterday Trump officially surrendered to the Taliban
You post yo blackfive
When will you try and discuss with the other contributors the cludterfuck that was our war in Afghanistan ?
I posted there as johnr and continually raised doubts when others were cheering our ongoing success
My email is below”

I really should ignore it, but it also lets me point out a bit more about how I run my site. Now, this hit me wrong for several reasons. Yes, there were a number of trolls, paid and un-paid, at Blackfive. Yes, I do believe some of them who pretty much told me they were paid to spam us. No, hate to say it, don’t really remember you off the bat.

Next up, I don’t demand English as no one here speaks or writes it; but, I do expect clear American and not broken, er, something. Want to get my attention? Consider doing something like making a proposition and then supporting/attacking same in a rational manner. A good cogent piece can get some good discussion going. This abortion of language deserves little more than mopping up and being put in an incinerator to prevent spreading infection.

Next, you couldn’t figure out how to send an e-mail (hint, it’s there)? Instead, you spam an unrelated post? That’s an automatic “fuck off” from my point of view.

Then, you demand I address, well, something. Again, that wrecked bit of random words doesn’t tell me what point or points I made, others made, or much of your position on those points. It is a mass indictment of the team at Blackfive without any real charge or means of defense. Want to play cancel culture? That’s “Fuck Off” number two.

Now, consider you are also demanding I write about what you want. Want me to write about what you want, versus what I want to write about or think is important at this moment? Then pay me jackass, as I don’t work for free. Cheap, yes, on occasion, but not free. That’s “Fuck Off” number three.

Three strikes, and you are out of here!

For those of you not trolls, I don’t mind disagreement, particularly if you cite facts. Change my mind! That’s how we grow intellectually. Keep it polite, fairly family friendly, address points and avoid ad hom. Fairly easy and painless.

Oh, as a final finger to the troll, it might want to check this out by Uncle Jimbo:


Jim Hanson: Trump’s Taliban peace deal is right move – After almost 20 years it’s time to exit Afghanistan https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/trump-taliban-peace-deal-afghanistan-jim-hanson

Thanks to GB of Blackfive for the link.

Start The Weekend

There is a lot going on out there to cover. More than I have time to do this morning. It will be a couple of weeks before we even start to having answers to the initial questions about 2019-nCoV. By then, we have a lot more questions, but only time will tell. Safe bet is that the real number of cases, and deaths, is much higher than being reported.

There are a couple of bills in Congress that need to be stepped on hard and fast. One would make the recent California law on self-employment/contract employment nationwide, despite the nuclear disaster it is already shown to be in California. The other is a so-called justice reform bill that would make the current NY law on reform — the one that has already resulted in murders and other mayhem — look tame.

There is a lot to get worked up about. That said, don’t.

Today, take the time to commit a random act of kindness, and perhaps also a random act of beauty. Share something good about the world. Let the legacy media have a relentless focus on negativity; let those free in mind and spirit take the higher ground.

Hope It Was Good

I went non-traditional this year, and did a nice ribeye steak seared in a brown butter sauce. Deglazed the pan with some vermouth, then threw in a mix of mushrooms to sautee in the deglace and brown butter sauce. Added a little more butter, a bit of balsamic, and had a very tasty treat. More soon, had to go out of state on Boxing day for business, going to see where today takes me.

A Thought For The Day

The religious celebration of Christmas is often lost beneath the secular. As the focus for so many is on gifts, may I ask you to consider something?

Instead of gifts, please just consider acknowledging people today. Say hello, wish them a Merry Christmas, do something to let them know they are recognized as an individual. That they are worth being recognized.

Grand gestures are nice and good, but sometimes simple greetings, manners, a smile, or other acknowledgement that someone is alive, of value, and deserving of recognition just for that is one of the best gifts we can give.

You Try To Be Proactive

My nature is to be proactive in terms of preparedness. This applies to healthcare as well, and my current insurance even encourages you to do preventative steps via a small rewards program.

Well, it came up recently that I had never gotten the shingles vaccine. In fact, according to the system, I was about eight years overdue to get it. So, I got it Saturday.

Now, I’ve gotten 2-3 dozen vaccinations of various types over the years. My yellow card is full and I need to get a new one. I’ve never had a problem or a real reaction to any of them. The shingles vaccine shot was the first one that truly hurt, and the site is still tender.

Saturday afternoon/evening, I was not feeling good. I put it down to the plunging barometric pressure triggering arthritis and/or a pain flare. Sunday was hell. Monday morning, upon seeing something off near the site of the injection, it finally hit me that I was having a reaction to the vaccination.

I got in touch with my doctor’s office and asked to come in. When the nurse heard my symptoms, I was ordered to the ER. IV steroid and antihistamine were administered, and I’m on steroids the rest of this week. It’s one of the first times in my life where trying to be prepared didn’t pay.

Things may be a little off here this week as I recover. Carry on.

The Myth Of Abused Becoming Abusers

I mentioned briefly yesterday the myth of those who are abused in childhood becoming abusers themselves. This myth was particularly vicious towards those who were sexually abused.

If you go and research current literature, the original study on this topic was — to be polite — seriously flawed. When more rigorous studies were undertaken, the myth was rather thoroughly discredited.

Today, it is generally accepted that — particularly for males — there is only about a ten percent rate of those sexually abused becoming abusers themselves. There are some studies that show that victims of other types of abuse (physical, mental) may have about a thirty percent rate of becoming abusers.

That said, the sexual or other abuse is not the prime indicator. The other factors that seem to matter more are: the sexual or other abuse being done by a female; maternal neglect; exposure to serious/extreme violence on a regular basis; and, lack of support.

This is a topic I promised someone I would cover, and am glad to do it. Frankly, the myth of those sexually abused — particularly males — becoming abusers has done extreme damage. It has adversely impacted reporting as well as getting help to cope with the abuse. It continues to create prejudice that has and can hound people (male and female) out of social organizations, churches, and even employment. The ignorant bigotry of this myth continues to hamper helping those who need it, as well as research on the topic.

With all the coverage of Epstein, this has come out even from people who should (or do) know better. Along with the mis-labelling of Epstein, rather than focusing on helping victims of pedophiles and ephebophiles, a good bit of the coverage and commentary is focused on sensationalism and poor information. That can cause problems for those who are victims of sexual abuse. As noted before, however, I don’t expect accuracy or precision out of the media or pundit classes.

I will probably create a page for citations related to this and other sexual abuse information, but for now here is a brief start on links and citations pertaining to this myth.

Outcome following child sexual abuse

Myth of the abused becoming abusers

Myths and facts about male sexual abuse and assault

Development of sexually abusive behavior in sexually victimized males

There is more to come. In today’s politicized environment, I am concerned that solid research on the topic of sexual abuse/other abuse (especially as it pertains to males) will become impossible. Why? I attended last year an event where the field leaders of a major non-profit involved with helping victims of domestic violence, abuse, etc. talked. Those field leaders made very clear that women were always victims, women never lied about rape or abuse, women never committed such crimes unless forced to by a male, and even males who were victims were perpetrators.

This is a mindset that is rather entrenched in social services (which is heavy SJW to start). It is why I would recommend strongly that any male who is a victim of sexual abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, or other abuse be extremely careful about using public organizations or services. My recommendation is to find a good therapist, as they can help you navigate services to avoid such bigotry.

Also, if you are a victim of childhood abuse — sexual or otherwise — I will recommend finding a local chapter of Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse. It is a good organization that provides self-help meetings around the country. While it is heavily formalized, there are good reasons for that. If you are in Indianapolis, however, and male, I can’t recommend the local group as it is hosted by the organization referenced above. Until another group is started that is not associated with that particular non-profit, there’s not a lot of help for male victims in Indianapolis.

This is a personal topic for me. I’ve known many male and female survivors of childhood and adult abuse. Talking with the victims of childhood abuse, particularly given the intense coverage of Epstein, is an interesting experience. If you are a victim or current or past abuse, please do reach out and get help. You are not alone.