While at O’Banion’s Sunday, a conversation caused one of those “sparks” that brought back a memory from childhood, and has caused some contemplation given this story and other current events. Thank goodness the girl was recovered safe and sound, as it seems to rarely happen that way.
Sunday, the Bartender was expounding forth (not an unusual occurrence), this time on the concept of community in terms of church and neighborhood. I found it interesting that we had similar paths, a decade or three apart, given that I’m a Georgia Boy and he’s a Yankee (grin). His parents had moved from downtown Indianapolis to the suburban wilds of Greenwood (which was not the boom area it is today). My parents did something similar in the early 1960s, moving out of old Macon and into suburbs that literally pushed up against woodlands.
Turns out, we both were free-range kids growing up. Our parents let us out and we got with other kids, explored, played, and did a lot of things that children today are deliberately denied. We walked to the nearby school, we rode bikes all over, all without our parents breathlessly tagging along. Which is not to say we were unsupervised. You and your parents knew the families around you, both on your street and pretty much a street on either side. Now, two streets over was starting to be terra incognita, and on one side that second street over butted up against acres of woods.
So, various mothers kept a watchful eye out and made sure we knew their hose was available so we could stay hydrated. A couple of the nicer ones even offered cookies and snacks (often homemade) on occasion. The moms kept in touch and as such had a rough idea where different groups of kids were and what they were doing.
Then one day, reality intruded. A man tried to snatch a little girl into his car. Kids were yanked into random homes until they could be gotten home or closer to home if they were latchkey. Given the attempt, all kids would be with adults until a parent or parents were home.
Today, I know that some of those moms who came out and got everyone inside were armed. While it was never officially confirmed, it sure did look like a number of dads left work and were driving around as well. Police and sheriffs, who we rarely saw, were out in force as well. The woods were off-limits for a week or three after that, and a much closer eye kept on what little play did happen for a while. Don’t know about the girls, but a number of boys got their first Boy Scout or other knife, or got a new and better one about that time.
The largest threat of such things has always been the creature hiding in the extended family or neighborhood, holding up a fair face to the world to hide the corruption beneath. But kidnapping by a random stranger hits a note that the first one does not. We never were quite as free to free-range after that, but it was still far better than today.
To be honest, Scouting provided a chance to do some of what was taken away via camping and hiking trips. Sad to say, one place we camped and liked we never went to again as it turns out the gunfire we heard breakout at one point was a serial killer taking out a family.
Thing is, both in the recent event and in the one from my past, communities came together. People looked out, looked after each other, and pooled resources. The police got information and tips, and along with some luck and a lot of work, a little girl was ultimately safe in both cases.
Given the deliberate assault on public safety by activist prosecutors and judges, communities are going to have to come together again for safety. It won’t be allowed in the targeted (mostly blue) cities, as those activist prosecutors and judges will be throwing the book at anyone fighting back. But, outside of those areas that have been targeted, it can and will work. Think about it, and it’s a good idea to know your neighbors.
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My own childhood, in a suburb not far from New York City, was relatively carefree. There was a creepy kid who worked at the Five and Dime who tried to lure us into an alley once, but it was generally pretty safe. We walked or rode our bikes everywhere. My own grandchildren, alas, live comparatively very limited lives. I don’t suppose my 14 year old granddaughter has ever been anywhere on her own in her entire life.
The world is scary, but most of the dangers are overblown. The number of stranger abductions in America is vanishingly small. Yes, this is no comfort to the parents of one of these children, but we live in a world of self-imposed fear. The real danger for most children is someone they know, in their own regular orbit. For a bit of perspective, I read a biography of Davy Crockett recently and learned that, at age 13, he walked from Tennessee to Virginia with one other man, then walked back home alone. Such things will never happen again.
The latter sadly true, those days are gone for now. Wish there was a way to let the kids today have a bit more free range in life.
Maybe it’s because I grew up in what is now the People’s Republic of New Jersey.
We were free range too. We walked to school. Rode our bikes endlessly. Had a network of mothers snitching us out. The same moms gave us snacks.
I was in the second or third grade (circa 1973?) and some pervert tried to lure one of us (we were traveling in a pack of about ten) into his car. All he got for his troubles was five or six boys hurling rocks at his beater.
If I recall correctly he got a few F-bombs hurled at him by the girls.
Never saw him again.
Good!