I went non-traditional this year, and did a nice ribeye steak seared in a brown butter sauce. Deglazed the pan with some vermouth, then threw in a mix of mushrooms to sautee in the deglace and brown butter sauce. Added a little more butter, a bit of balsamic, and had a very tasty treat. More soon, had to go out of state on Boxing day for business, going to see where today takes me.
The religious celebration of Christmas is often lost beneath the secular. As the focus for so many is on gifts, may I ask you to consider something?
Instead of gifts, please just consider acknowledging people today. Say hello, wish them a Merry Christmas, do something to let them know they are recognized as an individual. That they are worth being recognized.
Grand gestures are nice and good, but sometimes simple greetings, manners, a smile, or other acknowledgement that someone is alive, of value, and deserving of recognition just for that is one of the best gifts we can give.
My nature is to be proactive in terms of preparedness. This applies to healthcare as well, and my current insurance even encourages you to do preventative steps via a small rewards program.
Well, it came up recently that I had never gotten the shingles vaccine. In fact, according to the system, I was about eight years overdue to get it. So, I got it Saturday.
Now, I’ve gotten 2-3 dozen vaccinations of various types over the years. My yellow card is full and I need to get a new one. I’ve never had a problem or a real reaction to any of them. The shingles vaccine shot was the first one that truly hurt, and the site is still tender.
Saturday afternoon/evening, I was not feeling good. I put it down to the plunging barometric pressure triggering arthritis and/or a pain flare. Sunday was hell. Monday morning, upon seeing something off near the site of the injection, it finally hit me that I was having a reaction to the vaccination.
I got in touch with my doctor’s office and asked to come in. When the nurse heard my symptoms, I was ordered to the ER. IV steroid and antihistamine were administered, and I’m on steroids the rest of this week. It’s one of the first times in my life where trying to be prepared didn’t pay.
Things may be a little off here this week as I recover. Carry on.
I mentioned briefly yesterday the myth of those who are abused in childhood becoming abusers themselves. This myth was particularly vicious towards those who were sexually abused.
If you go and research current literature, the original study on this topic was — to be polite — seriously flawed. When more rigorous studies were undertaken, the myth was rather thoroughly discredited.
Today, it is generally accepted that — particularly for males — there is only about a ten percent rate of those sexually abused becoming abusers themselves. There are some studies that show that victims of other types of abuse (physical, mental) may have about a thirty percent rate of becoming abusers.
That said, the sexual or other abuse is not the prime indicator. The other factors that seem to matter more are: the sexual or other abuse being done by a female; maternal neglect; exposure to serious/extreme violence on a regular basis; and, lack of support.
This is a topic I promised someone I would cover, and am glad to do it. Frankly, the myth of those sexually abused — particularly males — becoming abusers has done extreme damage. It has adversely impacted reporting as well as getting help to cope with the abuse. It continues to create prejudice that has and can hound people (male and female) out of social organizations, churches, and even employment. The ignorant bigotry of this myth continues to hamper helping those who need it, as well as research on the topic.
With all the coverage of Epstein, this has come out even from people who should (or do) know better. Along with the mis-labelling of Epstein, rather than focusing on helping victims of pedophiles and ephebophiles, a good bit of the coverage and commentary is focused on sensationalism and poor information. That can cause problems for those who are victims of sexual abuse. As noted before, however, I don’t expect accuracy or precision out of the media or pundit classes.
I will probably create a page for citations related to this and other sexual abuse information, but for now here is a brief start on links and citations pertaining to this myth.
There is more to come. In today’s politicized environment, I am concerned that solid research on the topic of sexual abuse/other abuse (especially as it pertains to males) will become impossible. Why? I attended last year an event where the field leaders of a major non-profit involved with helping victims of domestic violence, abuse, etc. talked. Those field leaders made very clear that women were always victims, women never lied about rape or abuse, women never committed such crimes unless forced to by a male, and even males who were victims were perpetrators.
This is a mindset that is rather entrenched in social services (which is heavy SJW to start). It is why I would recommend strongly that any male who is a victim of sexual abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, or other abuse be extremely careful about using public organizations or services. My recommendation is to find a good therapist, as they can help you navigate services to avoid such bigotry.
Also, if you are a victim of childhood abuse — sexual or otherwise — I will recommend finding a local chapter of Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse. It is a good organization that provides self-help meetings around the country. While it is heavily formalized, there are good reasons for that. If you are in Indianapolis, however, and male, I can’t recommend the local group as it is hosted by the organization referenced above. Until another group is started that is not associated with that particular non-profit, there’s not a lot of help for male victims in Indianapolis.
This is a personal topic for me. I’ve known many male and female survivors of childhood and adult abuse. Talking with the victims of childhood abuse, particularly given the intense coverage of Epstein, is an interesting experience. If you are a victim or current or past abuse, please do reach out and get help. You are not alone.
Okay, so it’s not the song, but… It has been a crazy week, and I’m already more than ready for the weekend. Lots going on here, and in the world. So, go forth and read, think, and make the most of the day. Going to be cold and nasty here, had snow yesterday.
Sorry, nothing today as I didn’t sleep well (weather changes really suck these days). Not really looking forward to today, on several levels, but will get by. And, if lucky, find ways to make it a truly great day for myself and others.
Still no word from Amazon on my book being pirated. On the good news front, an automotive issue has been taken care of (for now) without too much blood shed. Now to develop a good maintenance plan and implement it… More soon.
Lots to say, lots going on in the world for good or for ill. However, Life intervened when the water pump on my car went out (rather spectacularly) Friday, thankfully after I had purchased it’s replacement. However, instead of having someone else install it as planned, I had to put it on myself since it wasn’t moving from where I had nursed it home and into the driveway.
It’s been a while since I’ve done auto mechanics, but it did get done. About six or more times the time estimate for a real mechanic, but that’s okay. Only real issue was overheating badly on Saturday while working on it. Finished up and cleaned up Sunday, then worked on recovery from the heat.
Which leads to the above proposition. It used to be that you could get in to work on most things rather easily. These days, not so much. You have to disassemble quite a bit to get to most anything. It’s all good on paper, but a PITA to really work on. I think that if the designers (and executives over them) had to work as mechanics for three years servicing things, we might see some serious improvements in design.
It’s been more than two years, and it still walks free. That is not acceptable. Spread the word; spread the photos; spread the audio; and, remember Libby and Abby. Libby had the presence of mind and courage to record this creature. Honor that by sharing and helping bring it to justice. You can keep up with the latest via the Indiana State Police page devoted to this case.
May be this evening, but it is coming… 🙂